Tuesday, October 29, 2013

No One is an Island



I read recently that people who maintain close friendships and find other ways to interact socially live longer than those who become isolated.  The article also state relationships and social interactions ever help protect against illness by boosting the immune system.

As we get older and retire or move to a new area, sometimes our social life diminishes.  Being in the workplace provided a great deal of social activity for many people.  Several studies have shown that social interaction offers older adults many benefits.  Maintaining interpersonal relationships and staying socially active can help you maintain good physical and emotional health.

The health benefits of social interaction in older adults includes:

  • Potentially reduced risk for cardiovascular problems, some cancers,          osteoporosis, and rheumatoid arthritis.
  • Lower blood pressure
  • Reduced risk for mental health issues such as depression
Some risks of social isolation are:

  • Being less physically active
  • Having high blood pressure
  • Feelings of loneliness
Social interaction also helps keep your brain from getting rusty. For optimum benefits, you should incorporate a healthy lifestyle, including a nutritious dies and some form of exercise.

Here are ways you can maintain a high level of social interaction here at Arrowhead Gardens:

  • Volunteer for activities--this is a great way to make new friends and        to share you creativity with your fellow residents.
  • Share a shuttle ride to local senior centers for lunch.  It's a great way      to get to know your neighbors over a healthy meal for a mere $3.
  • Join one of the many groups here on campus focused on activities            your enjoy, such as playing cards, or Scrabble, Pinochle, Wist and            many more.
  • Try take a class--learn to line dance, or paint watercolors, or drum.
  • Take advantage of the Enhanced Fitness session or use the excellent      fitness center in Building B to stay physically fit and engage with            others.
In addition to participating in some of the activities offered at Arrowhead, I'm also a member of a group called "Drunk on Beads." It started as a beginner's jewelry making class but has evolved in meaningful relationships.  Doing something creative thoroughly enriches my life.  Last February I joined a walking group, Sound Steps.  Sponsored through the Park  Recreation Department, they have walking groups all over Seattle.  It allows me to exercise and socialize at the same time.  It's been a wonderful experience meeting people from all walks of life and ages; some walkers  are in the 80's & 90's.  That inspires me!

I encourage you all to make a concerted effort to stay connected and involve yourself in at least one thing you thoroughly enjoy.  I guarantee the benefits are worth the effort.

Jacqueline Nash





Sunday, October 20, 2013

The Girl in the Yellow Paisley Dress: Sometimes, it’s just enough to be there


Tall for her 10 years of age, Amy Scottsadoon was a slender, elegantly postured girl with short cropped blond hair framing a strong featured face, self confidence beaming from a set of piercing blue eyes. Like most children Amy loved to run which she did with an unconsciously sinuous grace combining remarkable speed with agility and quickness.

Unusual for one so young, Amy was quiet - without being shy - even moving without the slightest sound so that she often surprised others who had no idea that she was nearby or had entered a room without their notice – catlike - it seemed - appearing almost as if from nowhere. More than once Amy had startled visitors - even her mother and father – by her sudden and unexpected appearance often wearing a long, bright yellow paisley dress complemented by her happy smile and a chuckle of amusement, usually – if you were her friend, that is! There were many of those friends for Amy was a bright, cheerful and friendly girl.


The yellow paisley dress was Amy’s favorite mostly because it had been made by her mother and was, therefore, very sturdy. It was a great dress for her to run in because the hem ballooned far from her ankles allowing full freedom of movement for her feet flying like the wind. Somehow, the dress seemed never to fade or even to get dirty no matter how far or how much Amy ran in it.


Downtown, late one day, line #1 on Jennifer Bowen’s phone in the Claims Division of Cosmopolitan Life Insurance lit up. Heavy of heart Jen’ noted the caller ID as the General Hospital and picked up the receiver with a resigned sigh.


“It’s Dr Picketts office,” spoke the voice on the other end, “can you come down to Grace’s room right away?”


“OK, yes,“ Jen’ murmured, softly hung up the phone, gathered her things and headed for the elevator. “Well, it’s time,” she thought to herself – “it’s time.”


Jen’s mother, Grace Bowen, was suffering from Systemic Lupus, an almost always fatal condition, with treatment involving massive and continuous dosages of cortisone which placed her at risk of serious bacterial infection. This, in turn, required her to be placed in the hospitals securely guarded isolation ward. Grace had been at end-stage of the disease and was comatose most of the time, lately unable even to respond to her daughter’s loving and yearning touch unmindful of her tears and sorrow. On her way to the hospital Jen’ finally resigned herself to the necessity of planning the next steps of her mother’s passing and remembrance.


Emerging from the hospital elevator Jen was so immersed in her own sadness that she was slow to notice a group of people chattering cheerfully at the door to her mother’s room and that the usually stern and somber Dr. Pickett was actually smiling. Puzzled Jen’ glanced into the room and there was her mother actually SITTING UP IN BED?? Actually TALKING with the nurses?? Momentarily, Jen’ was too stunned to comprehend as her mother’s gaze fell upon her and Grace broke out her classically beautiful smile that Jen’ had treasured for a lifetime, then had lost. Flabbergasted, Jen’ could only stare, uncomprehending.


“We don’t know what happened,” exulted Dr. Pickett, “except that this morning your mother hit the nurses call button and asked about breakfast.” “We’re doing tests now, he went on, “but Grace seems much better, is obviously conscious and most importantly, is passing fluids at a great rate. She’s a trifle disoriented at the moment blathering on about some little girl in a yellow dress in her room last night when we all know that’s impossible because the isolation ward is secure. Besides, no one else here saw anyone or anything.”


Downing a sterile isolation suit and mask Jen moved quickly to the bed taking her mother’s hand in her own gloved one. “Oh, Jennie,” her mother said, “at first I thought it was you last night. But your eyes are brown and the others were blue. So deep blue it was like peering into eternity with so much strength and energy flowing from them and into me that we both knew I would come back and so, here I am!”


Suddenly, from the hallway a loud voice demanded, “excuse me Doctor; Detective Lynch here – Peter Lynch - Metro Police –What’s this about a girl and a yellow dress?”


“Why do you need to know?” inquired Dr. Pickett taking a step backwards from the large, pugnacious cop.


“Got a report here,” Lynch stated forcefully. Girl in a yellow dress may have been shot over to center city way – murder attempt on ‘at reporter what exposed ‘at City Hall construction bribery scandal – girl may have gotten inna way,” he bellowed mercifully ending his run-on sentence in order to breathe. “Cain’t find ‘er”,
re-launched Lynch, “disappeared somewhere – maybe if she’s shot, she’ll show up in the hospital – need ‘er as a witness to the murder attempt – got the intended victim right here,” he concluded out of breath.


“That’s right” said a slightly built man with a camera on a lanyard around his neck whom no one had thus far noticed. “Fred Smertz,” the little man said by way of introduction, “City Trib’, Crime Beat.” I was in the basement of City Hall taking photos of cement cracks and other shoddy work being done. Suddenly, this huge man emerges from the shadows with a gun in his hand. This’ll teach-ya to mess where ya don’t belong, the man snarled at me as he raised the gun towards me.”


“I was paralyzed with fear,” continued Smertz, “I thought I was a dead man for sure. I guess it was just before he pulled the trigger there came the sound of running footsteps – tiny steps but, real fast. Too dark to see, though, so both of us just froze for a second. Suddenly, from the shadows a figure appeared. It was hard to see and everything happened quickly but, I swear it was a little girl because she looked like one and, had on a bright yellow dress that was easy to see even in the murky basement. Suddenly, the little girl stopped – just like that – not even slowing down. She raised a finger and pointed it at the gunman and then shook her head – ‘no!’”


Smertz continued, his voice shaking, “the creep swings the gun over at the kid and fires. The smoke and noise was huge in the enclosed basement. I just hightailed it out of there and down a hall where I ran into two cops who had heard the shot and were coming to investigate. We went right back but, there was no sign of the shooter or of the little girl but, she saved my life for sure,” asserted Smertz.


“Well, all we have here are two stories,” concluded Dr. Pickett, “and, no little girl in a yellow dress. If we’re done here I need to get back to my patient.”


Lynch and Smertz departed for police headquarters in Lynch’s City Car. Driving through a nice residential neighborhood they came upon a large crowd all gazing upward into a tree. Ever the cop, Lynch screeched the car to a halt causing everyone to look over their way. “What’s the problem here,” Lynch demanded gruffly.


“Kitten up a tree,” responded an onlooker, “way up in the tiny branches at the top and the foliage is too thick to get a ladder up.” Pointing to a child of 5 or 6 years old sobbing in a woman’s arms, “the kid is brokenhearted and scared about it but, we can’t think of anything to do,” said the onlooker. Then, pointing up into the tree a neighbor suddenly exclaimed, “look, there’s somebody up there now! How did that happen? There was nobody up there before!”


Lynch looked up and sure enough there did appear to be someone there and a flash of yellow was visible. Seeming to lose its fear the kitten tentatively negotiated the small branches until it reached the larger one on which the unknown person sat. Momentarily, branches began to move further and further down the tree and soon it could be seen that the rescuer was a young girl in a long and flowing, bright yellow dress, the kitten trustfully clutching itself onto her shoulder. With incredible agility and athletic grace the girl made her way down the tree lightly dropping the last few feet to the ground then handing the kitten to the child in her mothers arms.


Turning to the Officer the girl said “Hello Detective Lynch, my name is Amy Scottsadoon and I happened to be passing by. I hope I haven’t caused any trouble here.” For once speechless, Lynch could only stare at her flabbergasted – how did she even know who he was?


“What a great story,” rejoiced Smertz. Would you mind if I took a few pictures of you? This would make a fine human interest piece for the paper.” Smiling sweetly, Amy agreed and Smertz snapped several photos of her in her yellow paisley dress from different angles.


Later, back at the newspaper, Smertz sent the film to the lab’ for processing. The next morning the developed pictures were returned and Smertz opened the photo envelope to remove the contents.


There was no one visible in any of the photos.

Richard Lee
C-406